It's the last day of 2020...thank goodness! I know that I'm not alone in being happy to see this year end. I know that the turning of the page of the calendar can't magically fix things, because there's so much to fix. I know that we're not out of the woods with Covid-19 by a LONG WAY. However, there's something to be said for a clean slate, even if it's just a mental one. Everyone has a choice regarding how they see things of course. This active welcoming in of 2021 is mine.
Thursday, December 31, 2020
Goodbye 2020
It's the last day of 2020...thank goodness! I know that I'm not alone in being happy to see this year end. I know that the turning of the page of the calendar can't magically fix things, because there's so much to fix. I know that we're not out of the woods with Covid-19 by a LONG WAY. However, there's something to be said for a clean slate, even if it's just a mental one. Everyone has a choice regarding how they see things of course. This active welcoming in of 2021 is mine.
Sunday, December 20, 2020
This Year: 2020
Saturday, December 05, 2020
Tuesday, December 01, 2020
Saturday, November 28, 2020
Thursday, November 26, 2020
Thanksgiving 2020
Sunday, November 22, 2020
A Sunday in 2020
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I just thought that I'd check in for a moment. Even though I'm more sporadic here these days, it's not due to lack of interest. I always wish that I had more to say when I come here, but like most human beings, this year especially has been having its way with me. It's difficult to gather my thoughts these days. But I guess that I should be kind to myself and just not force anything. I mean, we're all somehow getting through a pandemic, on top of political turmoil, with our own personal losses and worries thrown on top of this steaming pile of a year.
Wednesday, November 18, 2020
Sunday, November 15, 2020
Sunday, November 08, 2020
Biden/Harris 2020
Congratulations to President-elect Joe Biden
and
Vice President-elect Kamala Harris π
We used our voices and voted for change!
I immediately thought of the late Congressman John Lewis when I heard the news.
We did it!
Tuesday, November 03, 2020
Election Day 2020
Sunday, November 01, 2020
Thursday, October 22, 2020
Turning Homeownership Chaos Into Peace At Home
*collaborative post
Buying your first house is an exciting moment. The change of habits from tenant to homeowner can be dramatic! For many new homeowners, it is a learning curve, during which they adjust to their responsibilities. Having your own home is a fantastic experience that teaches you a lot about house maintenance, interior style, and budget management. But not every first-time buyer is ready to tackle the challenges with an open mind. Truth be told, you’re going to find homeownership highly stressful at times. After all, it is an unknown world that differs significantly from your experience as a tenant. Yet, you shouldn’t let those differences unsettle you.
There is a lot of joy in homeownership. But, if you’re going to make it enjoyable, you need to learn to tackle the obstacles that are most likely to drive your stress levels through the roof. Create a peaceful nest out of a chaotic journey at the heart of the real estate market.
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Making The Exterior Beautiful and Manageable
Don’t you dream of a beautiful garden in your front- or your backyard (or both)? It’s surprisingly easy to start a gardening project you can’t manage. Lush vegetation and beautifully trimmed bushes in a variety of elegant shapes are what public parks are made of. But if you intend to do the same with your backyard, you’ll soon discover that it is, in fact, a monumental task. While this isn’t to say that you should abandon your dream of a green garden and cover every with a slab of concrete cement, you need to be more realistic. Too many homeowners waste a lot of time and money trying to control a garden that would require daily professional maintenance service. Instead, it can be a lot more satisfying to pick a more natural pattern. Slight meadow growth in the backyard, for instance, is a manageable design that can elegantly add patches of colors. Besides, meadow yards need only little maintenance work throughout the year, and they add a controlled overgrown look and feel. There’s a sense of peacefulness to it, not just in terms of management but also you’ll find yourself smiling when you look at it.
No Rental Fees, Yet New House Payments to Manage
Have you budgeted enough for your home?
As a first-time buyer, it’s not uncommon to miss essential costs in your calculations. It’s part of the learning process, and you are more than likely to discover further necessary improvement projects as you move in. From needing to upgrade the bathroom to having to repair the roof, these nasty surprises can tear apart your budget. Here’s a little fact for you: Most first-time homeowners don’t borrow enough money through their mortgage, so they are left wondering how to pay for further improvement works. There are a few options available. You can reach out to your bank to discuss a second loan application; however, depending on your credit score, it can be tricky. Alternatively, you can borrow against your existing mortgage, using solutions such as the homeowner loans from Evolution Money. If borrowing isn’t an option, you can prioritize projects, delaying work that isn’t essential until later. This will allow you to save and budget accordingly.
DIY Improvements Come At a Cost
I’ll do it myself; it’ll be cheaper.
Are you sure about that? DIY mishaps can drive your costs high. In the UK only, enthusiastic homeowners are known to make costly mistakes. You could injure yourself severely. Over one in ten individuals is likely to experience bad cuts during a DIY project. A whopping 10% get hurt by falling from a ladder. Don’t underestimate health costs as you embrace home improvement works. Causing damage to the house can also lead to high expenses, from knocking a hole into the walls to causing leaks. Sometimes, paying for expert work is the best way to protect your budget!
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You Don’t Need to Keep All Your Things
Have you moved in with an army of cardboard boxes? It is tempting to keep hold of all your belongings, even those that have been part of your life since your first dorm room. The battered desk, the old student clothes you’re not wearing anymore, the home decor gifts you dislike, the magazines and books you haven’t read in years, etc. The list is long, but there are many things in your home that can create clutter. Use the opportunity to get rid of your clutter ahead of the move. It’ll only create more stress and drain your wallet otherwise.
Don’t let the homeownership chaos take over. There will be a lot of mistakes and new things you discover along the way. But saving yourself unnecessary stress by considering the most practical approach to some common issues, you can preserve your mental health. Breathe in. Breathe out. Welcome to your new home; seize the challenges with a smile!
Saturday, October 17, 2020
Wednesday, October 14, 2020
4 Tricks For Matching Your Glasses And Your Hairstyle
*collaborative post
A lot of people feel self conscious about wearing glasses because they don’t know how to style them properly. If you wear glasses, it’s important that you treat them like any other accessory and match them with the rest of your look. Finding a haircut that works well with their glasses is one of the things that people struggle with most and their glasses end up ruining their overall look. The good news is, there are some simple tips and tricks that you can use to make sure that your glasses and haircut match.
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Know Your Face Shape
Thursday, October 01, 2020
Saturday, September 12, 2020
Saturday Walk
Hubby and I went on a lovely walk in the countryside this morning. The view was breathtakingly beautiful. The walk was healing and restorative.
This year, 2020, has been an incredibly difficult one for all of us worldwide. We still have a few more months left in this year and this pandemic is still having its way with the world and will for a while. On a personal note, I've lost two loved ones, two incredible women, during this spring and summer, during this brutal year.
Hard doesn't even begin to describe this time, but I get up every morning with even more determination to keep going. I love them both dearly and miss them more than I can express, but I've realized that I honor their lives and legacy by keeping going. They both lived amazing lives and gave so much to so many. Those of us who loved them will carry them with us in our hearts always.
So, as I took every step on my walk this morning, they were with me and they forever will be ❤❤
Wednesday, September 09, 2020
Sunday, September 06, 2020
Sunday, August 09, 2020
Saturday, August 08, 2020
Saturday, August 01, 2020
Sunday, July 26, 2020
Thursday, July 23, 2020
Film Spotlight: Alice
This is the story of Alice (Emilie Piponnier), who is a happily married young mother who soon discovers that her husband (Martin Swabey) has an addiction to high-priced escorts. Alice and her son are left with no money. Their home is in jeopardy due to Alice’s husband wasting all of their money on escorts and he fails to pay the mortgage. In order to support herself and her young son, Alice reluctantly resorts to becoming a high-priced escort herself, since she has no one else to turn to for help. She finds out that the work is very lucrative and allows her to collect enough money to pay larger amounts on their very overdue mortgage.
I was very intrigued by this film and I was drawn in immediately as I was fully invested in how Alice would figure things out for herself. Alice is very much the girl next door in the beginning of the film, but as viewers we get to see her transform into a survivor. Her journey is not seamless, and we get to see her understandable uneasiness as she steps into this new world. We get to see her strength grow from the inside to the outside as she meets the many challenges that she faces as she tries to get her life back on track.
I loved the realism of this film. One of the main themes is survival and most specifically financial survival, which is a timely theme. Money isn’t everything, but it surely pays the bills and that’s a good thing. Seeing Alice desperately struggling to find a way to support herself and her young son lends a great universality to her character. This is a thought-provoking film and I really enjoyed it!
ALICE won the Grand Jury Award at the SXSW Film Festival in 2019 along with other prestigious awards. Emilie Piponnier gives an outstanding performance as Alice and this is her first lead role in a feature film.
ALICE will be released on selected digital platforms (Curzon Home Cinema, The BFI Player, Barbican Cinema On Demand, Amazon Prime Video) from Friday, 24th July.
FILM INFORMATION:
Saturday, July 18, 2020
John Lewis 1940 - 2020
In March 1965, he was beaten severely along with other marchers on Bloody Sunday and on many other occasions and yet he persevered. He endured a myriad of horrible experiences during sit-ins and was arrested over 40 times and was a Freedom Rider during the Civil Rights Movement. He always said that we must get into "good trouble" in order to right the wrongs and injustices that we come across.
He is a fellow Georgian, although he was born in Troy, Alabama. He served as the U.S. Representative for Georgia's 5th congressional district since 1987. I am honored that he was part of the Congressional Delegation from my home state. Through all that he endured, from all accounts of those who had the pleasure of meeting him, he was a genuine and kind man. He was a man of great conviction and was very vocal with his views on how to make America live up to itself. He was dedicated to securing our right to vote and championed voting up until the very end of his life. Now it is our turn to continue to work for equality in his name and we must continue to exercise our right to vote always. Too much blood was shed and too many people died for our right to vote and it is our duty to honor all that John Lewis and others did. We must vote!
We live in such turmoiled times and I sometimes wonder how we will ever get through it, but when I get discouraged, I often turn my thoughts to our ancestors…Dr Martin Luther King Jr, Rosa Parks, and so many countless others and now this list will include Congressman John Lewis and Reverend C.T. Vivian (we lost both of them yesterday). I think of all that they endured on our behalf and I know that they are counting on us to keep going. They worked to change the world and as a Black woman, I know for sure that I owe them more thanks than I can ever articulate.
One of the most immediate things that I can do to honor the work and life of John Lewis is to vote! Interestingly, just by chance, today I mailed in my absentee ballot for the run-off election in my home state and I will definitely be casting my vote for the general election in November. Mr John Lewis, Dr King, Rosa Parks, Reverend C.T. Vivian and so many others fought so hard for my right to vote and it is my job to use it every chance that I get.
Thank you, Congressman John Lewis, for being such an inspiration and for walking through this world with such honor and dignity while giving so much. Saying simply "thank you" doesn't seem adequate in the face of all that he and so many others did in our name, but words have power, even when they are simple words, so I simply say with the greatest respect...Thank you Mr John Robert Lewis. Thank you!
Saturday, July 11, 2020
Product Spotlight: Niederegger 2020 Flavours of the Year
Sunday, July 05, 2020
It's Okay to Not Be Okay
This has been a very up and down weekend for me…more down than up, but I’ll be okay eventually. There are a lot of things swirling around my head these days, but the main thing is that I miss my sister Mary.
I’ve debated back and forth with myself and wondered if I should just try to keep stuff like this off my blog and just work it through using my journal, but I feel the need to speak up here. I want to be transparent and not hide it. If nothing else, I want to show that it’s okay to not be okay. I find that denial is not helpful for me. This is real life.
I will get through this grief, but I know that it has changed me. I have gone through grief before and I know from experience that it’s never a straight line. It just takes its own path. I know that I will get through this eventually, but right now I just wish that my sister were still in this world. It's been two and a half months, and even though I know that she passed away, sometimes I still can't wrap my mind around it. Sometimes I think that I'm processing my grief okay, but sometimes I feel like I'm just spinning my wheels. It's hard...incredibly hard.
I will learn to live with it eventually, but I will miss her forever…
Wednesday, July 01, 2020
July 2020
Saturday, June 27, 2020
Sunday, June 21, 2020
Film Spotlight: A Foreign Affair
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Recently I’ve had the opportunity to enjoy the classic comedy A Foreign Affair by the celebrated director Billy Wilder. The film is a sophisticated satire starring Jean Arthur, Marlene Dietrich and John Lund, and for the first time it will be released on Blu-ray in the UK on 22nd June 2020, as part of The Masters of Cinema Series from Eureka Entertainment. A Foreign Affair blends an intriguing mixture of romance along with dialogue that crackles with quick wit.
Saturday, June 20, 2020
Happy Saturday - June 20th 2020
Friday, June 19, 2020
Juneteenth
Sunday, June 14, 2020
The Peaceful Bench
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I took this photo quite a few years ago. Whenever I need a peaceful moment,
I go to this spot in my mind's eye.
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Tuesday, June 09, 2020
Product Spotlight - Nakin Natural Anti-Ageing Lip Treatment Balm
The last couple of months have been eventful to say the least. The pandemic has been a huge adjustment for us all. We’ve all been adapting to a “new normal” and we’ve been faced with figuring how to do a lot from home. One thing that this time has shown me is the value in taking care of ourselves. Self-care is something that I’ve not been great at for so long, but now I’m getting onboard with it because I’m realizing just how important it is. Even though I’ve been working from home, I still find that I’ve been having more time to “be” with myself. It took me a while, but since I’ve been in less of a rush during quarantine, I’ve realized just how much I’ve not been taking time for myself. I’ve learned my lesson now and I think that this will stick even when things are more “normal” again, although I don’t think that “normal” will quite be normal ever again, but I digress π
Therefore, I’ve been using a few products as I commit to taking better care of myself. One of the products that I love is Nakin Natural Anti-Ageing Lip Treatment Balm. Recently, I've had the opportunity to try this out and it’s been really great. I tend to have dry lips sometimes and this has worked very well. The consistency of this lip treatment balm is nice and soothing.
This is a great lip conditioner from Nakin's high-performance range. Created with an active complex of shea, mint, argan and baobab oil to flood lips with nutrients and hydration.
Nakin Natural Anti-Ageing Lip Treatment Balm contains:
Mint - which stimulates the circulation under the skin to plump lips
Baobab Oil - which delivers hydration and superb protection from the environment
Shea Butter – which is a natural salve made of fats that provide healing and softening
Argan Kernel Oil - provides skin protection, healing and soothing from the Triterpenoids that occur in it
Other reasons to love this lip balm:
- 100% natural
- Free from preservatives, synthetic ingredients, petrolatum and mineral oil
- It’s an anti-ageing lip balm, a vegetarian lip balm and a cruelty-free lip balm
- It’s also wheat free and gluten free
Nakin Natural Anti-Ageing Lip Treatment Balm is also a 2020 Beauty Shortlist Award winner, along with five other products from their range.
This is a great product and it’s a welcome addition to my beauty regimen.
If you’d like to try it for yourself, please visit their site here.
Monday, June 08, 2020
Peace During the Storm
The Two Diseases
I haven’t been able to bring myself to watch all of the George Floyd video…I just couldn’t. I watched a few seconds, but then I had to turn it off. It’s just too much…it’s all too much. I know all that I need to know…the police killed him right before the eyes of the world. The whole thing is rooted in racism and the disregard for black lives.
I’ve been heartened by all the huge protests across the country back home in the United States and around the world. There are people from all backgrounds. I have been reading a lot about the protests and have found that there have been deaths at the hands of police in other countries in addition to those in the United States. I have heard protestors outside of the United States say that they are out there to protest in solidarity with the United States and also this movement is highlighting the systemic racism in their own countries. I pray that real change happens worldwide.
Racism is ugly and it infects society around the world. I have felt its terrible sting back home in the United States. I’ve felt it here in the UK, when I’m followed around practically every store that I visit or when my so-called neighbors watch my every move with suspicion or when white women clutch their purses as I pass by them while I'm minding my own business. After I pass them sometimes, I'll glance back and they'll let go of their purses and they dangle and other non-black people pass by unscathed by constant suspicion.
One of my work colleagues, who is white, and I were recently discussing racism, in light of what has been happening with all of the protests. She said that at least the UK didn't have problems with racism. I told her that actually I've felt racism on both sides of the Atlantic and her mouth dropped open when I told her about some of the things that I've been through. It was like what I was saying didn't compute...it didn't fit the narrative of what she believed about the UK. She tried to reason that perhaps it was because the incidents happened outside of London. I told her that some did and some didn't. She was thoroughly shocked when I told her that I was followed around shops in London too and the whole nine yards. That's the thing, people like to think that racism happens in other places, but racism can and does happen globally. America definitely has its problems with racism, but it is not alone in this....not...at...all.
I’ve felt racism in a very pronounced way during a time in my life when I should have not had a care in the world, when I was on my honeymoon in 2006 in the Canary Islands. We were treated so badly by the hotel, the hotel restaurant host, the hotel staff, and the tour guides. I couldn't wait to leave. It broke my heart and for a while, it broke something within me. Racism is so tiring and crushing and exhausting and yes violent, very violent, as we see in cases of police brutality.
Whenever the crushing sorrow of racism just grinds me down and I become immobilized, I read a favorite quote from Toni Morrison that always snaps me back on course, even if only for a little while.
- Toni Morrison
Wednesday, May 20, 2020
Sunday, May 17, 2020
Spaghetti Sunday Healing
Friday, May 15, 2020
Thursday, May 14, 2020
Thursday Tree
made me think of my sister. She loved trees too.
Saturday, May 09, 2020
Sitting Outside Again
I posted the photo above earlier today on Instagram. I took it as we sat outside underneath the tree in our backyard here in Wiltshire, England. It has been an all too rare pastime for me even before the lockdown of this pandemic. It's not that I dislike sitting outside in nature...that isn't it at all. I'm a great nature lover. The reason that we aren't usually sitting outside is...well, I'll just say it has to do with a rather unfriendly set of neighbors who are in very close proximity next door. There is a fence separating us and we were safely socially distancing. However, they are always watching us, especially me, with an accusatory glance as if they are keeping an eye on me.
Note to the "neighbors": I am your "neighbor", not a burglar.
The environment has not been a good one. However, today we just decided to go out and ACTUALLY enjoy our own backyard. Maybe it's the lockdown, maybe it's our freshly cut little lawn, maybe it's just finally getting to a point, after all that we've gone through recently on top of the pandemic...but we were just like "this is our space...let's enjoy it" and that's just what we did and it was wonderful.
I know that this may sound extreme to those who read this, but the effect upon our enjoyment of our yard and other places for me, especially for me as the "outsider", has been profound and has been hard on my mental health. The "outsider" experience has definitely left a mark on me that I am finally fed up with and am actively working on healing. A shift has happened and I really don't care anymore. Let them look...let them think whatever they want about me...just let me be. It's easier said than done when you have to deal with this ridiculous scrutiny, but I'm done folding myself into a tiny square in order to take up less space in this life. Life is to be lived. Losing my sister and all of the heaviness of these times that we're living in, has changed my perspective on so much forever.
I had forgotten just how wonderful it is to just sit outside in your backyard...I can count the amount of times that I've sat out there over fourteen years on one hand...no joke...no hyperbole...just facts. It may sound ridiculous, but oh the crippling energy has been so real for me. It's sad when I think of that, but I can't go back and change it, I can only go forward.
When we went outside, we both took a book to read, but I ended up spending 95% of the time just looking around and looking up at the beautiful green canopy of leaves overhead. I listened to the sweet birds singing and I felt more alive than I have in a long time. Imagine that...something so normal felt like heaven to me.